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Courage and inspiration

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Many times, when we see people who leave everything and pursue their dreams, we think:

“Yeah, but he/she’s missing all the money I’m earning”

“He/she’ll never make it, it’s too utopic”

“I’d never be able to do that anyway”

..or other excuses we kindly make up for ourselves.

I remembered this when I read again Mihai’s story – a friend of mine who decided to give up everything (job and money, in a nutshell) to dedicate himself to a project related to human development and coaching. More about his project and life here and here.

Also inspiring was the dream of Alex Gavan, another friend who’s an alpinist and recently returned from a trip to the Himalayas. I remember when we were both around 20 (some 7-8 years ago), returning from a conference on a bus, and he said: “You know, I’m a mountain climber. That’s what I want to do. I want to climb the highest mountains in the world.” I said “You’re crazy. Do you even know what this means?” but of course I learned to admire this when, step by step, he followed his goal. He’s now pretty famous, and an inspiration to people in my home country, as he will deliver a speech on his dream at TED X Bucharest in October.

Of course, having the courage to pursue an apparently impossible goal can be reckless. You can destroy everything you’ve built in your life so far. But also, you might succeed. And I’m sure both Mihai and Alex can say that the thing that helped them most here was support of others.

What’s the conclusion?

When someone talks about a goal, and your first reaction to it is “This is insane. How can you do that?”, think that you may be snapping the door on an inspiring future of someone.

How about saying  “That’s a great idea! What’s the first step you want to take?”


Written by effectivenesscoach

September 25, 2009 at 5:59 am

7 Responses

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  1. Well said – i do agree the value of a positive response. But if the aim of the person is too strong – then he need not expect anything from others mam. Having said this sometimes you really expect your near and dear ones to support you since it gives your extra confidence and courage. But counter expressions are more defined by the conservative society that we are living in and most of them are inherited values.


    September 25, 2009 at 6:14 am

    • Very true. And we also see the best examples of leadership in those who positively defy society’s limitations.


      September 25, 2009 at 6:19 am

      • Let me know your tweet id – if you tweet tooo mam..


        September 25, 2009 at 6:28 am

    • so are you going to support me next year to become an ironman?


      September 25, 2009 at 10:05 am

      • Sure, since you don’t need your coach to be actually better than you (I bet you can run longer than me), why not 🙂 Do they do championships in RO as well?


        September 28, 2009 at 6:52 am

  2. Thanks a lot Mer! 🙂 Me speechless!

    PS: You need to correct the links because they are not working 😉

    Mihail Musat

    September 25, 2009 at 6:44 am

  3. Thanks for Alex Gavan’s site! It’s amazing! Please send him the best regards of a mountain lover and dreamer!


    September 25, 2009 at 7:41 am

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